Coaching Responses

She's having trouble staying vulnerable in her relationship because she feels like she and her boyfriend disconnect every time there's conflict. Can they learn how to stay connected to each other even in times of conflict? Can they learn how to cope in healthier ways? Are they ready to change?

She has a simple, yet profound question: Why do people hurt me so much? In the question's simplicity, there's so much pain. How does one learn the mindset and the tools required to no longer feel wounded by everyone and everything? How does one learn to stay at peace when they feel hurt by the things other people say and do?

Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. But then I grew.

Have you ever shamed yourself for feeling what you feel? Have you ever talked down to yourself and wished you felt differently than you do? We all have. But it's important to learn that our feelings don't have to make sense and that if you let them, they will guide you to wherever you're ready to heal next.

Did you know that almost every emotional reaction you have is a result of some past experience, some past painful moment, that is being expressed in the present? And that it's possible to clear the old pain so that you can live more happily in the present moment? Sounds bizarre, I know. But follow me for a second.

He is struggling with trust issues, not knowing what love is, and not feeling like his life matters.

She has started drinking and overeating and is struggling to accomplish her dreams.

His mom and family have caused a lot of pain in his life and he's still holding resentment toward them for not believing in him and for making him feel like he always had to act a certain way to get their love and attention. And he's finding it hard to forgive them. Is it possible for us to forgive the people who hurt us so badly? The answer is yes and it's an incredibly powerful strategy to learn.

She is afraid the school system is failing her daughter and this mommy is thinking of homeschooling her. The problem is that the mom struggles with depression on and off and doesn't want to fail her daughter too. When there are choices to make, such as this, how do we connect to the real problem so that we can figure out the right next steps?

He fears success, and he fears that if he's successful he wouldn't know what to do with all the money and all the requests from friends and family for some of his earnings. Should his fears of the unknown stop him from even trying to be successful or can he learn how to make the unknown known using some of the strategies I outline for him?

She has a brother-in-law who is always negative, mean to her sister, and treats her sister poorly. She can't help but hate him for it. But, she doesn't want to hate him anymore. Is it possible for her to learn to have compassion and love for him so that she can keep her happiness and peace? (spoiler alert: yes, it is!)

Have you ever thought about how much your mindset matters in relationship to how it feels to live your life? Most people don't. Most people just feel what they feel and they think everyone else is responsible for it. I used to, too. But, I've learned, there's another way to be; one that's freeing.

Have you ever wondered if it's possible to love someone you hate? I mean, why the hell would anyone want to do that?! Well, read on. There's a really important reason why.

She is in a "friends with benefits" situation and finds herself really liking the guy and feeling anxious when she doesn't hear back from him. Is it possible she's gotten too attached? Or, perhaps, been lying to herself all along? Will she be able to find happiness regardless of whether she hears back from him? I believe so.

Have you ever longed for an ex after a breakup? Have you ever continued to love them long after they left your life? If so, listen up.

He is heartbroken over a previous marriage and stuck in grief after also losing his mom at the same time. Now he's feeling very lonely and questioning a lot if he matters. How can he safely begin to feel the pain of his losses while at the same time begin building his confidence?

Did you know that oftentimes we find ourselves in relationships and situations that don't feel good simply because we never took the time to really consider what would feel good? Think about that.